Do you want to know how to begin anal play? I get asked ALL THE TIME, and I feel on a quest to make anal play much better for everyone, so I will be taking the mystery out of it. My experience has shown me that many who are curious or inexperienced need help, or might be afraid or completely steered away from any type of anal play. But many are in search of the sometimes elusive anal orgasm, therefore, I must bring you anal tips, all the while being my kinky, slightly sadistic self!
What is the Sphincter Muscle
You must learn to relax the sphincter muscle. If you have experienced any pain with anal play, especially upon insertion, this is where things can hurt! The outer sphincter muscle is the muscle that when anal play begins can, and usually will, tense up, and then the play stops. Pressure sets the sphincter off both ways. From within, pressure helps the sphincter relax to let things out, and pressure from the outside causes tightening to keep things out.
Relaxing the Sphincter Muscle for Anal Play
Ms. Delia’s first big tip is to insert a finger every day in the shower just to get the sphincter muscle used to being touched and used to the sensation of something going in, not just out. This daily fingering can help you to know your own body and remain relaxed with different sensations. I expect you to practice every day in the shower. I would expect you to start enjoying your showers even more. Here is a very sexy idea. Use a bit of hair conditioner it is a great lube and washes easily!
Use Lube, Lube, and MORE Lube!
You must find a really good lube. Make SURE you do not buy a desensitizing lube because it can cause numbing and block the natural pain you should feel so you do not do damage. Your ass is meant to feel and react to pain and stop, and you NEED to listen to your body! If you are looking for a good, tested lube, look no further. The amazing Ms.Constance researched lubes and has her lube reviews posted on her blog to help everyone! When you think you have used enough lube, use more, and keep applying during your anal play session.
Try Anal Massage Before Anal Play
Anal massage avoids major penetration and toys and gives pleasurable sensations on and just inside the anus through gentle touch. After the first couple of inches inside the anus there are very few nerve endings and no real feeling except for fullness, and this science demonstrates why a short dildo is just as effective as a long one for anal play. Plan a sexy time for yourself. Get different toys for different sensations. Do not worry about insertion, and only focus on pleasurable sensation.
Anal Play Insertion Rule
I have a science-based tip! The sphincter muscle can only stay tightened for about 2 minutes, and then gets tired and relaxes. Using this tip, your rule to follow is to insert toys slowly and focus on deep breathing through any tightness. Wait out any discomfort, and stop with any pain. Make sure you follow this rule and we can begin exploring the prostate
The Prostate or Male G-Spot
The male G spot isn’t all too hard to find, but it does require a little patience and practice. I want to help you find your prostate! Try this: lay on your back with your legs elevated which you can do a couple of ways, either by leaning your legs against a wall or lifting them into a knees-up position. You will need to be able to reach your perineum. If you’re still having difficulty reaching the perineum from this position, you can lift your backside further by sliding a pillow or two under that ass of yours.
Make yourself comfortable, and start by gently massaging the area surrounding your anus. Use the soft pads of your fingers, and be gentle! Next, lube a finger up and gently tickle and stroke the surface of your anus. Do this for a few minutes, relaxing into the feelings, and increasing the pressure slightly. Once relaxed enough to begin probing, start slowly and gently. Push out or bear down if you have to relax your sphincter during the process. When you get to your G spot, you’ll know. It feels like a small, walnut-sized bump about two inches inside.
Stimulating the Prostate
Now that you have a finger inside, it may take some experimentation to discover what works best for you and your pleasure. This is where anal sex starts! First, try gentle thrusting movements. Continue with some more, constant pressure on the prostate itself just press and pulse. You may even enjoy thrusting and pulsing in alternating waves. Take your time, and enjoy the sensations. When you feel ready take a thinner, shorter toy and you can use lube to insert it and continue.
Don’t touch your cock for some time. Enjoy the prostate stimulation. You may leak precum and feel a sensation like you want to cum. The feelings will be pleasurable. Learn your sexy, pleasurable feelings, and you may cum from this type of hands-free anal play. That orgasm will be so intense and so worth it. I hope you have explosive results!
I hope you enjoyed this helpful guide for beginning anal play. Always remember to beg for Mistress Delia and I would love you to discover anal play!
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