I feel on a quest to make anal play all much better for everyone, so I have researched. Why? My experience has shown me that many who are curious or inexperienced need help, or may be completely steered away from any type of anal play. Therefore I have been out here reading anal tips…of course. No, not shopping online or doing anything else…just being my kinky, slightly sadistic self!

Specifically, I was reading up on some ways to help relax the inner sphincter muscle.This is where things can hurt! This is the muscle that when anal play begins, can and usually will, tense up, and the play stops.

Pressure sets it off both ways. Pressure from within, and it auto relaxes to let things out. Pressure from outside, and it auto tightens to keep things out.
 
A couple of articles focused in on getting the inner muscle to relax, or not respond so tightly to stimulation. Practice was the biggest tip, and good ideas were given.
 
First big tip was inserting a finger every day in the shower just to get the inner muscle used to being touched and used to the sensation of something going in, not just out. The articles actually said this can help one to know the body and remain relaxed with different sensations. So try this every day in the shower. The results will be great, and you may find yourself enjoying your showers even more. One toy I tried this with said conditioner was an amazing lube. Just a bit helps, and it washes right away!
 
Second tip was find a really good lube, and never a desensitizing one. A desensitizing lube can hurt you. While it numbs tissue, making things easier to insert, that actually is the dangerous part. Your body is meant to feel and react to pain. Pain means something needs to stop, so do use lube, but be able to listen to your body!
 
Anal massage was another tip that I really liked.With anal massage, there is no major penetration or toys, just a nice massage starting at the neck…and going lower, then working the pleasurable sensations on and just inside the anus.

The articles said what I knew, that after a certain point on the anus there are few nerve endings and no real feeling except for fullness which is why a short dildo is just as effective as a long one. Only the first couple of inches will feel it, so here size doesn’t matter as far as the need to go to longer & longer toys. Going with thicker toys requires pretty much what I have discussed here.”Not too thick” was recommended as regular use of big toys or fisting can lead to incontinence. Egads!
 
After anal massage they discussed the insertion of things. The inner muscle (so they say) can only stay tightened for about 2 minutes give or take 30 seconds. But then it tires and will relax. However one article said an overactive sphincter is stronger, and can stay tighter longer. So, they recommended inserting things slowly, deep breathing through the tightness, and waiting it out. Meditation too. 
 

I am actually pretty excited about my research, and hope you can put it to good use with me. I am always thinking of your anal pleasure!

For a sexy phone session with Mistress Delia, call 800-601-6975
Must be 18+ to call
Calls are $2.50 per minute with a 10 minute minimum
Discreetly billed to a major credit card
If you enjoyed your call with me please leave feedback at
https://ratemycall.com