I recently spoke about my love of anal play on Ms. Becky’s show, Kinkology. It was an experience I genuinely enjoyed, and I feel it offered a unique window into the shame and stigma that still surround many aspects of kink anal play.
When Ms. Becky first reached out to me to be part of her Mistress Interview Series, I was both excited and a little nervous. It’s not often I get to sit down and openly discuss myself in such an open forum. Both she and I, with our Psychology backgrounds, love to educate and to normalize anal play, which often is considered taboo.
Ms. Delia’s Back Story
During the interview, I shared my backstory—how I first discovered my natural dominance in college, exploring subcultures at a female-run fetish 
club. That experience was transformative, awakening a deep understanding of power dynamics and personal expression. My life was a path paved with curiosity, self-discovery, and a fierce desire to help others embrace their own sexuality. Now, I prefer focusing on the empowering submissives to enjoy anal play.
Submissives Need a Release
I expressed how I feel passionately about the psychology behind submission. Submissives are often craving a form of release from their responsibilities, a chance to surrender control in a safe, consensual space. Whether they are powerful executives seeking respite from constant decision-making or individuals who feel more comfortable in a structured, hierarchical role, their submission is a vital part of their psychological well-being. For many men, surrendering to a trusted Domme is an act of self-affirmation, a way to explore their identity, or even confront their fears and shame in a controlled environment.
Ms. Delia’s Kinks
I explained that dominance feeds my soul because it allows me to organize, teach, and create a shared masterpiece with my submissives. My control is not just about power but about the trust and intimacy that come from shared vulnerability.
We also touched on my love for anal play and training, a subject close to my heart. I believe that society’s toxic shame around anal sex and anal training is still pervasive, rooted in outdated taboos and cultural stigmas. We discussed how my journey into anal training began in the fetish club, watching men being pegged, and being curious about strap-ons and the art of preparation. My anal blog here is part of my mission to normalize and celebrate this adventurous and pleasurable aspect of sexuality.
I LOVE Anal Training!
Discussing my anal training program, I explained that it spans everything from easy anal play activities to advanced hole stretching. I emphasized 
that anal play is a gateway to deeper trust, vulnerability, and pleasure, and that confronting the shame is as important as the physical training. We talked about stories of submissives who have struggled with guilt after enjoying anal, and how my job is to remind them that kink and pleasure are natural parts of being human.
Do you feel Shame About Anal Play?
The conversation naturally led to the societal shame surrounding anal pleasure. We discussed the historical acceptance of anal sex in ancient civilizations like Greece and Sumeria, contrasting that with contemporary taboo. I expressed frustration with how modern society has created guilt and secrecy around something fundamentally human and pleasurable. By openly discussing and normalizing anal play, we can help dismantle these harmful stigmas.
I shared a story about a submissive I play with who experienced intense shame after climaxing during anal play. His guilt was so profound that he once discarded a $1100 machine. I reassured him that anal pleasure is normal. Look at all the anal sex type videos out there. It proves that anyone who loves anal is not alone! I feel one of my roles as a Femdom is often to serve as a kind of therapist, guiding my submissives toward self-acceptance and kinky empowerment.
I have SO MANY Anal Toys!
In the interview, I also spoke about my favorite toys, including my extensive collection of strap-ons, prostate toys, and the Lovense Hush. The control I have with toys like the Lovense is exhilarating, as I love to be in command, making my submissives whimper and beg with every vibration. The idea of being in the driver’s seat, dictating pleasure and discomfort, is a core element of my dominance style.
The experience on Ms Becky’s Kinkology show was a reminder that open dialogue about our desires can be both liberating and healing. I hope that my words inspire you to get naughty and try some anal play. There is just so much to explore for anal pleasure!
I look forward to more opportunities to play with Ms. Becky, so reach out to us for a two-Mistress call. Always BEG for Mistress Delia and stay kinky!
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