So, you know it feels good to stick things up your butt. But, (hehe, see what I did there?), there are certain things about anal play that you should do for the best possible experience. On the flip side of the coin, there are also a few things you’ll want to avoid to ensure a happy bottom 🙂 Let’s explore!

The Do’s of Anal Play

DO use LOTS and LOTS of lube! As I was once told by a very sexy source, when you think you’ve used way too much lube, that’s usually just enough 🙂

DO make sure to be comfortable and relaxed. Though fetishes can often be cloaked by a sinister demeanor, there is always a level of trust that lies beneath that. There is nothing wrong with saying you’re not quite ready for a certain activity just yet, and you may just need to find a deeper connection first. Talk it over and perhaps bring some massage oil into the picture. There’s never an excuse to make negotiation unsexy 😉

DO combine anal play with other stimulation such as stroking or using a variety of male sex toys. Depending on your choice of toy and how you use it, or if you’re playing with a partner, DO remember to either use a condom on your toys, and/or be sure to wash your toys and hands before pleasuring other hot spots.

DO try a prostate vibrator at least once in your lifetime, the sooner the better. I promise you won’t regret it 😉

The Don’ts of Anal Play

DON’T try to use a toy, or anything else for that matter that clearly isn’t going to work at said point and time. Though being a size queen can be a big turn on, always remember that relativity is a factor. My tip would be to use a blindfold while playing with a toy you agree upon and a trusted partner. That way, you can imagine taking your dream toy, and by working within your limits you may find that it provides just the sensation you need 😉

DON’T use a toy without a good sized base to it, or is otherwise noted to not be a toy suitable for anal use. You can use corded egg or bullet vibrators, but it is very important to slip a non-lubricated condom over them and simply lube up the outside the condom away from the cord, as well as your ass.

DON’T be afraid to get kinky with it! Anal play can coexist with multiple fetishes, and can add a whole new level of excitement to a tried and true roleplay. Be creative!

Do you have anything to add to the list or an opinion to share? Go for it!

XOXO- Mistress Marilyn